The purpose of this Marital Intimacy Test is to help couples evaluate the current state of their emotional, physical, and relational intimacy. Understanding where you stand can reveal strengths to celebrate and areas that may need attention. This awareness is a vital step toward deepening your connection, building trust, and enhancing your overall relationship satisfaction. Be honest in your responses—this is for your growth, not judgment. Use this as a guide to identify opportunities for intentional effort and renewed intimacy in your marriage.
Instructions:
Answer each question with “Yes” or “No.” After completing all questions, count how many times you answered “Yes” to determine your level of intimacy.
Marital Intimacy Questions
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Do we initiate physical touch daily?
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Do we regularly spend quality time together without distractions?
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Can I share my innermost concerns and fears with my spouse?
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Do I feel good when I touch my spouse?
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Am I satisfied with the level of passion and intimacy in our relationship?
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Do we support each other physically and emotionally in public?
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Are we generally on the same page regarding sex and physical intimacy?
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Do we make time for hugging and kissing regularly?
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Do we laugh and have fun together often?
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Do we take turns initiating intimacy?
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Do we still enjoy activities we loved when we first dated?
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Do we keep promises to each other?
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Do I feel good when my spouse touches me?
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Do I feel safe and heard when discussing intimate issues?
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Am I confident I won’t be rejected if I approach my spouse for intimacy?
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Do we try new things and vary our routine in intimacy?
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Do I desire to rekindle some of our lost passion?
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Do we openly discuss our sexual desires and fantasies?
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Do I feel emotionally connected during intimacy?
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Do I feel appreciated and loved by my spouse?
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Are conflicts resolved in a way that restores intimacy?
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Do I feel comfortable expressing my needs and boundaries?
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Do I feel emotionally safe to be vulnerable with my spouse?
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Do we share our dreams and future plans?
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Do I feel valued and respected in our relationship?
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Do we maintain physical affection even during stressful times?
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Do I feel a sense of spiritual connection with my spouse?
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Are we able to forgive and move past conflicts easily?
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Do I feel excited about our intimacy and connection?
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Do I believe our relationship can grow stronger in intimacy?
Scoring:
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0-10 “Yes” answers: On the Edge
Your intimacy levels are very low. Significant effort is needed to reconnect emotionally and physically. -
11-20 “Yes” answers: Holding Steady
You have a foundation of intimacy, but there is room for growth. Focus on specific areas to deepen your connection. -
21-30 “Yes” answers: Far from the Edge
You are enjoying a healthy level of intimacy. Continue nurturing your relationship to maintain and enhance your bond.
Final Tips:
Use your results as a starting point for open, honest conversations with your spouse. Discuss the areas where your answers differed, and pray for guidance and wisdom to grow in biblical love and intimacy. Remember, strengthening your marriage is a continual journey rooted in Christ’s love and grace. Consider seeking biblical counseling or marriage enrichment resources to help you deepen your connection and reflect God’s love more fully in your relationship.