Marriage is a sacred covenant and a lifelong commitment before God. As Christians, it’s important to thoughtfully prepare your heart, mind, and spirit before entering into marriage. The Marriage Readiness Test is designed to help you reflect on your values, expectations, communication skills, faith, and emotional maturity as you consider this important step. This test is not a guarantee of future marital success, but it can help you identify strengths and areas for growth as you seek God’s guidance in your relationship.

Instructions:
Read each statement carefully and choose the number that best describes how true it is for you right now.

1 – Almost Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – About Half the Time
4 – Most of the Time
5 – Almost Always

The Marriage Readiness Test

  1. I seek God’s guidance in my relationship decisions.

  2. I am able to forgive others, even when it’s difficult.

  3. I am comfortable talking about my faith with my partner.

  4. I can express my feelings honestly and respectfully.

  5. I am willing to put my partner’s needs before my own.

  6. I have a clear understanding of what marriage means from a biblical perspective.

  7. I am able to resolve conflicts in a healthy, God-honoring way.

  8. I am open to receiving advice from wise Christian mentors or counselors.

  9. I am financially responsible and willing to work with my partner on budgeting.

  10. I am able to admit when I am wrong and apologize.

  11. I pray regularly for my future spouse and our relationship.

  12. I am comfortable discussing difficult topics with my partner.

  13. I am committed to sexual purity before marriage.

  14. I have realistic expectations about what marriage will be like.

  15. I am willing to compromise when necessary.

  16. I am patient with my partner’s weaknesses and shortcomings.

  17. I am able to manage stress and difficult emotions in a healthy way.

  18. I am willing to serve my spouse sacrificially, following Christ’s example.

  19. I am able to set healthy boundaries with friends and family.

  20. I am comfortable discussing finances, including debt and spending habits.

  21. I am committed to attending church and growing in faith together.

  22. I am able to communicate my needs without blaming or criticizing.

  23. I am willing to seek help if my relationship faces challenges.

  24. I am able to trust my partner and be trustworthy in return.

  25. I am comfortable with the idea of submitting to God’s will for our marriage.

  26. I am prepared to make marriage a lifelong commitment, not just a temporary arrangement.

  27. I am willing to put in the effort to keep our relationship strong.

  28. I am able to forgive myself and accept God’s grace.

  29. I am comfortable talking about children and parenting with my partner.

  30. I am able to respect differences in opinion and background.

  31. I am willing to support my partner’s dreams and calling.

  32. I am prepared to face challenges together, not alone.

  33. I am able to express gratitude for my partner regularly.

  34. I am willing to grow and change for the sake of our marriage.

  35. I am comfortable sharing my spiritual struggles with my partner.

  36. I am able to balance time between my partner, family, and friends.

  37. I am committed to praying together as a couple.

  38. I am willing to forgive my partner when they make mistakes.

  39. I am able to maintain healthy boundaries with the opposite sex.

  40. I am committed to loving my partner as Christ loves the church.

Scoring Key

  • For each statement, give yourself the points that match your answer (1–5).

  • Add up your total score for all 40 items.

Interpretation:

  • 160–200: You show strong readiness for Christian marriage.

  • 120–159: You have many strengths, but some areas may need growth.

  • 80–119: Consider seeking guidance and working on key areas before marriage.

  • 40–79: Significant growth is needed before you are ready for marriage.

This test is for personal reflection and growth. For deeper insight, talk with a trusted Christian mentor, pastor, or counselor as you prepare for marriage.