The power of doing good shows up most clearly in how Christian men treat the women in their lives. When a man follows Christ, his attitude toward women cannot be shaped by culture, resentment, or fear, but by the gospel itself. Doing good is not a strategy to get something in return; it is the natural overflow of a heart changed by grace.
Seeing Women as God Sees Them
From the very beginning, Scripture is clear that both men and women are created in the image of God. That means every woman—a wife, daughter, coworker, neighbor, stranger, or even someone who strongly disagrees with you—is a person of immense worth. She is not a problem to fix, a threat to avoid, or a prize to win. She is a soul to love and a person to honor.
Jesus never sorted people into “worthy” and “unworthy” before He served them. He spoke with women others ignored, defended women others wanted to condemn, and received ministry from women others overlooked. A Christian man who claims to follow Christ cannot treat women with contempt and call it strength. Real strength is choosing to see women through God’s eyes, even when culture trains men to see them as objects or opponents.
Doing Good in the Small Things
Doing good is not usually about big moments on a stage; it is about quiet, daily decisions when nobody is applauding. It shows up in how a man talks, looks, listens, and responds.
It looks like speaking respectfully, even when a conversation is tense and emotions are high. It looks like listening instead of rolling your eyes or dismissing concerns. It looks like protecting instead of exploiting—choosing not to use charm, power, or position to pressure a woman into anything sinful or compromising.
Doing good means refusing crude jokes that degrade women, turning away from pornography that turns women into products, and rejecting any attitude that treats a woman’s body as more important than her soul. It means honoring marriage vows when they are easy and when they are hard, keeping promises even when it costs something, and taking responsibility seriously instead of blaming others.
These choices may feel small in the moment, but they are forming a man’s character day by day. The power of doing good is that it shapes both the giver and the receiver.
Goodness Is Not Weakness
Some men fear that kindness will make them look weak. But Christian goodness is not soft, sentimental, or spineless. Jesus was gentle and lowly in heart, yet He was also bold, clear, and unafraid to confront sin. He could hold children in His arms and also drive money changers out of the temple. That is not weakness; that is holy strength under perfect control.
A man who does good will sometimes need to say hard things that someone does not want to hear. He will have to set firm boundaries when a relationship is unhealthy or sinful. He may have to stand alone for what is right when others compromise. Treating women well does not mean agreeing with every opinion or tolerating every behavior. It means responding with truth and love instead of anger, sarcasm, mockery, or manipulation.
Goodness is not allowing people to use you. Goodness is choosing responses that honor God, even when you are being mistreated. It is strength guided by love.
When Doing Good Is Not Appreciated
There is a unique test of the heart that comes when doing good is not recognized or appreciated. Many men today feel burned—by rejection, misunderstanding, divorce, broken relationships, or a culture that often mocks traditional masculinity. The temptation is to pull back and harden: “Fine. If this is how women behave, I’m done being kind. They don’t deserve it.”
But Christlike goodness is tested precisely when it is not rewarded. If a man only does good when he gets praise, attention, or affection, then he is not really doing good—he is making a deal. The call of Christ is not “Do good when it works,” but “Do good because it is right.”
A man anchored in Christ does not let bitterness write his story. He takes his hurts honestly to the Lord, but he refuses to let those wounds turn into hardness and contempt. He remembers how often God has shown him mercy when he did not deserve it, and he lets that mercy shape how he treats others.
How Doing Good Changes Women—and Men
When Christian men choose goodness in how they treat women, the effects ripple out farther than they realize.
Wives feel safe, cherished, and respected, not merely managed or endured. They can relax into their role, knowing they are not in competition with their husband but partnered with him. Daughters see firsthand what real masculinity looks like. They grow up knowing they are worth more than attention, more than flattery, more than a man’s desire. They learn to expect honor, not tolerate disrespect.
Single women in the church see that there are still honorable men in the world—men who can be trusted, men who will not play games with their hearts or bodies. Even women outside the faith notice the difference when Christian men consistently act with integrity and kindness. It becomes a living picture of the gospel, a quiet but powerful testimony that grace makes real changes.
But the power of doing good is not just in what it does for women; it is in what it does in men. Every small act of obedience shapes a man into the likeness of Christ. Every time he chooses patience over irritation, purity over lust, gentleness over harshness, and faithfulness over selfishness, his heart is being trained. Over time, he becomes a different kind of man—not perfect, but noticeably more like Jesus.
Pushing Back Against a Harsh Age
We live in a harsh and often cynical age. Online spaces are filled with blame, sarcasm, and division between men and women. Some voices tell men to give up on doing good because “it never works,” “women don’t appreciate it,” or “kindness just gets you walked on.” Other voices tell women to assume the worst about men and never trust their motives.
In this climate, a man who quietly commits to doing good stands out. He becomes a kind of rebel—not against God’s design, but against selfishness and bitterness. He refuses to let the world decide how he will treat women. His standard is higher and holier.
He does not treat women well because they are always right or always kind. He treats them well because he wants to honor Christ. He understands that he will answer to God for his behavior, not for anyone else’s. That clarity gives him freedom: freedom to be kind without being naive, firm without being cruel, and strong without being controlling.
The Question That Really Matters
In the end, the key question for a Christian man is not, “How do women treat me?” Culture trains men to obsess over fairness: “If I do this, what will I get back?” But the gospel asks a better question: “Who has God called me to be?”
The power of doing good lies in settling that question deep in the heart. When a man knows that his identity is rooted in Christ, he can stop keeping score. He can choose to treat women with dignity, respect, and sacrificial love even when it goes unnoticed, because he is doing it for the Lord.
That does not mean he ignores pain, pretends everything is fine, or stays in abusive situations. It does mean that, whatever he must walk through, he wants his responses to look like Jesus.
The power of doing good is not flashy. It rarely makes headlines. But it transforms homes, churches, and communities one interaction at a time. And it begins wherever a man quietly decides, by God’s grace, “I will treat the women in my life the way Christ has treated me—with patience, mercy, truth, and love.”