Dear Future Wife,
I don’t know your name yet, or maybe I do and just don’t realize it. I don’t know what you look like, where you’re from, or what your story is. But I do know this: God is writing both of our stories, and at just the right time, He’ll bring them together in a way that only He can. Until then, I want to share my heart with you in this letter—a collection of hopes, prayers, and promises for our future together.
First, I want you to know that I’m praying for you. Maybe that sounds cliché or old-fashioned, but it’s true. I pray for your heart, your dreams, your faith, and even your struggles. I pray that God is shaping you into the woman He wants you to be, just as He’s shaping me. I pray that you’re growing in your love for Jesus, because I know that’s the foundation for everything else in life—including our marriage.
I wonder what your life is like right now. Are you in school, building a career, or maybe chasing after a dream that God has placed in your heart? Are you surrounded by friends who encourage you, or do you sometimes feel alone and wonder if anyone really understands you? I want you to know that you’re never alone. God sees you, knows you, and loves you more than anyone ever could. Even though we haven’t met yet (or maybe we have and just don’t know it), I care about you, too.
I hope you’re learning to lean on God in every season. Life isn’t always easy, and I know you’ll face your share of challenges. I hope you’re learning to trust God’s timing, even when it doesn’t make sense. I hope you’re learning to forgive quickly, to love deeply, and to live with integrity. I hope you’re learning to laugh at yourself, to embrace new adventures, and to never give up on the dreams God has given you.
I want you to know that I’m not perfect. I have my own struggles, insecurities, and fears. There are days I wonder if I’ll ever be “enough” for you, or if I’ll mess things up. But I’m learning to bring those fears to God, to let Him shape me, and to trust Him with my heart. I’m learning that my worth isn’t found in being the “perfect” husband, but in being a man who loves God and seeks to honor Him in all I do.
When I think about our future together, I get excited. I imagine us building a life centered on Christ—a life full of laughter, adventure, and purpose. I see us praying together, serving together, and cheering each other on as we follow God’s calling. I picture us facing challenges side by side, holding hands through the storms, and never giving up on each other.
I want our marriage to be a reflection of God’s love—a love that is patient, kind, and sacrificial. I want us to be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. I want us to forgive each other freely and to always fight for unity, even when it’s hard. I want us to be each other’s biggest encouragers, always building each other up and believing the best.
I hope we never stop getting to know each other. I hope we ask each other questions, share our dreams, and make time for deep conversations. I hope we never get too busy to laugh together, to go on dates, or to just be silly. I hope we create traditions that are uniquely ours—little things that make our marriage special.
I want to be your partner in every sense of the word. I want to support you in your work, your passions, and your walk with God. I want to be someone you can trust with your deepest thoughts and feelings. I want to be the one who prays for you, cheers you on, and stands by your side through every season.
I know we’ll have our share of disagreements. We’re two imperfect people, after all. But I promise to always fight for us, not against you. I promise to listen, to seek understanding, and to choose grace over pride. I promise to never let the sun go down on my anger, and to always say “I’m sorry” when I mess up.
I want our home to be a place of peace, laughter, and love—a safe haven where we can be ourselves, where we can rest, and where we can invite others in. I want our marriage to be a testimony to God’s faithfulness, a light that points others to Him.
I pray that we’ll be generous—with our time, our resources, and our love. I pray that we’ll open our home to friends, family, and strangers, and that we’ll use what God has given us to bless others. I pray that we’ll serve together, whether that means volunteering at church, helping a neighbor, or going on a mission trip. I pray that our lives will make a difference for God’s kingdom.
I hope we never stop growing—individually and together. I hope we challenge each other to be more like Christ, to step out of our comfort zones, and to keep learning. I hope we read the Bible together, pray together, and dream together. I hope we encourage each other to pursue the gifts and passions God has given us.
I want you to know that I’m waiting for you—not in a passive way, but in a way that’s active and intentional. I’m using this time to grow, to learn, and to become the man God wants me to be. I’m building friendships, pursuing my dreams, and serving God where He has me right now. I’m learning to be content in this season, trusting that God’s timing is perfect.
Sometimes, waiting is hard. There are days when I wonder if I’ll ever meet you, or if God has someone else in mind for me. But I’m learning to trust that God knows what He’s doing. He sees the bigger picture, and His plans are always good. I believe that when the time is right, He’ll bring us together in a way that only He can.
I want you to know that I’m saving myself for you—not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually. I’m guarding my heart, my mind, and my body, because I want to give you the best of me. I know that purity isn’t just about saying “no” to certain things; it’s about saying “yes” to God’s best. It’s about honoring Him with my choices and trusting Him with my future.
I hope you’re doing the same. I hope you’re guarding your heart, your mind, and your body. I hope you’re making choices that honor God and respect the man you’ll one day call your husband. I know it’s not always easy, but I believe it’s worth it.
I want us to build a marriage that lasts—not just for a few years, but for a lifetime. I want us to grow old together, to look back on our journey and see God’s hand in every step. I want us to leave a legacy of faith, love, and faithfulness for our children and grandchildren.
I know marriage won’t always be easy. There will be hard days, seasons of doubt, and moments when we don’t feel “in love.” But I promise to choose you, every day. I promise to fight for our marriage, to pray for you, and to never give up. I promise to keep God at the center of our relationship, because I know that’s the only way we’ll make it.
I want to laugh with you, cry with you, and grow with you. I want to celebrate the big moments and cherish the small ones. I want to build a life that honors God and brings joy to those around us.
I don’t know when or how we’ll meet. Maybe we’ll bump into each other at church, meet through friends, or cross paths in some unexpected way. However it happens, I trust that God will make it clear. Until then, I’ll keep praying, growing, and trusting Him with every step.
Thank you for being the woman you are—the woman God is shaping you to be. Thank you for loving Him, for pursuing Him, and for trusting Him with your life. Thank you for waiting for me, for praying for me, and for believing in the kind of love that lasts.
I can’t wait to meet you, to learn your story, and to start our adventure together. Until then, I’ll be here—living, loving, and trusting God with every step.
With all my heart,
Your Future Husband
P.S. If you’re reading this someday, know that you were worth the wait. Every prayer, every tear, every moment of longing—it was all worth it to find you. I can’t wait to see what God has in store for us. Let’s build something beautiful, together.