Key Thought: Laying a good foundation during your child’s formative years is critically important in determiningwho and what they will become as an adult. Quick Review: Two main components of child training (‘paideia’) Direction—getting a child on course. Teaching + Modeling + Reinforcement = Internalization (i.e. your child adopting your beliefs and behavior as his own) [...]
Key Thought: Laying a good foundation during your child’s formative years is critically important indetermining who and what they will become as an adult. Quick Review: The fundamental problem with any parenting approach centers on the issue of control. The battle forcontrol begins early in a child’s life. Control is power. Three Basic Parenting Approaches: [...]
Key Thought: Laying a good foundation during your child’s formative years is critically important in determining who and what they will become as an adult. Quick Review—The biblical parenting approach allows freedom within limits; the child is given control but on the parent’s terms. The amount of control given is determined by what the child [...]
Emotional distance can build up over time, often sneaking up on you without you even realizing it. Before you know it, it feels like you are miles apart, disconnected, and maybe not even in love. Unfortunately, it happened for a reason…and you may have played a part in that. These behaviors build walls and divide the [...]
This kind of relationship requires an emotional investment from both partners. There is a consistent effort to strengthen the emotional bond by engaging in the following behaviors: Spend quality time together. Engage in physical affection. Have regular, meaningful conversations. Be open and transparent with one another. Listen attentively to one another. Share hopes, dreams, and [...]
A dysfunctional family is one whose interactions are distorted by the addictions, compulsions, and behaviors of one or more of its members. As a result, the needs of each individual in the family are ignored and a rule of “don’t trust, don’t feel” emerges. The result is that children grow up with their own self-destructive [...]
Answer each question with “yes” (mostly true for me) or “no” (mostly not true for me). Circle each “yes” answer and count the total. 1. Do you tolerate mistreatment from people in hopes of being loved? 2. Do you depend on people who are emotionally unavailable to care for you? 3. Do you feel compelled [...]
DIRECTIONS: For each of the statements below, the rate in your journal what is your level of exhibiting these behaviors in your life. Use the following rating scale: 1 = never 2 = rarely 3 = sometimes 4 = frequently 5 = almost always 1. I seek approval and affirmation from others, and I am [...]
1. Do you feel like you often “on eggshells” with this person? 2. Do you find yourself frequently upset and angry with this person? 3. Does this person emotionally drain you? 4. Do you find yourself rehearsing conversations you had with this person? 5. Have you emotionally distance yourself from this person? 6. Do you [...]
1. Does your partner enjoy humiliating you in public? 2. Do you find that the way your partner treated you at the beginning of the relationship is unrecognizable from the way they treat you now? 3. Are you persistently made to feel guilty for voicing your concerns in the relationship? 4. Does your partner shame [...]
