When you are in an unhappy relationship, you have three choices. Maintain status quo End the relationship Make it better That’s it—number three. Surprisingly (or maybe not so surprisingly) most unhappy people choose Option 1. It feels strange to think most of us would choose – or at least accept – unhappiness as our relationship [...]
You are not alone; this is a common problem that marriage counselors often hear. Wives report a variety of reasons why their husbands will not come to marriage counseling: He has already “checked-out” of the relationship emotionally. He does not “believe” in counseling; it’s a sham that won’t work. He doesn’t think he has a [...]
What is emotional baggage? In simple terms, it is unresolved emotional issues from the past. For some, emotional baggage goes back to childhood. For others, it may be of a more recent origin. The primary characteristic of most emotional baggage is that it involves some type of abuse and/or trauma. Because these painful experience(s) have [...]
It’s easy to blame the other person for your unhappiness. You may think, “They’re the problem; they need to change!” When you externalize your frustration by blaming or criticizing them for your discontent, you are attempting to change them. “If you would only _________, I wouldn’t be so mad.” Unfortunately, all you really accomplish is [...]
Type A personalities are known for their ambition, perfectionism, competitiveness, and go-getter attitudes. Yet, research shows they can often struggle with stress and anxiety, aggressive communication, and relationship troubles. Use these 7 actionable tips to optimize your Type A personality so you can be unstoppable at work while maintaining balance in your personal life. What [...]
Admit you have baggage! We all have emotional baggage that needs to be unpacked. No one gets through life without being wounded or wounding others. If you are going to unpack your emotional baggage, you first need to be honest with yourself. Start the healing process by answering some basic questions: Who is it that [...]
Get physically active. One of the most important things one can do to cope with anxiety is to get regular cardiovascular exercise. For instance, a brisk 30- to 60-minute walk releases endorphins that lead to a reduction in anxiety. There is a clear link between anxiety and exercise. Those that do not exercise or stay [...]
How would you describe your current marriage relationship? Are things good or maybe a little shaky? Do you see any danger signs that trouble you? If you’re not sure, why not take the time to review some of the danger signs? Scripture tells us "a prudent man sees danger and takes refuge, but the simple [...]
What is Betrayal Trauma? Betrayal trauma is the result of the violation of a deep attachment, where there has been abuse or neglect of an individual who depends on that attachment for their safety and well-being. Betrayal Trauma occurs most commonly from partner betrayal- a partner has an affair or lies to you about something significant [...]
It’s easy to blame the other person for your unhappiness. You may think, “They’re the problem; they need to change!” When you externalize your frustration by blaming or criticizing them for your discontent, you are attempting to change them. “If you would only _________, I wouldn’t be so mad.” Unfortunately, all you really accomplish is [...]
