Emotional self-regulation is the ability to manage and control our emotions in healthy ways. It involves being aware of our feelings, understanding where they come from, and having strategies to handle intense emotions without becoming overwhelmed. Emotional regulation is a key skill for mental health, relationships, and overall wellbeing. The Importance of Emotional Self-Regulation Being [...]
God’s Word says that conflict with another person starts in your heart. When selfish desires are not checked, you try to get your own way, which leads to resistance on the other person’s part. What causes fights and arguments among you? They come from your selfish desires that fight to control you. You want what [...]
Jealousy is a complex and often painful emotion that can arise in relationships when we fear losing someone important to us. While a small amount of jealousy is normal, excessive jealousy can become toxic, leading to suspicion, controlling behaviors, and damaged trust. Common signs of unhealthy jealousy include constantly checking a partner's phone or whereabouts, [...]
Get Rid of Your Emotional Baggage What is emotional baggage? In simple terms, it is unresolved emotional issues from the past. For some, emotional baggage goes back to childhood. For others, it may be of a more recent origin. The primary characteristic of most emotional baggage is that it involves some type of abuse and/or [...]
Beware of thinking, "Adultery would never happen in my marriage." Sadly, many who believed they were invincible are the very ones who have fallen into immorality. I have counseled countless men and women who have sat with their heads in their hands lamenting their stupidity for having been involved in adulterous behavior. I have heard [...]
How many times have you thought you were communicating clearly, only to discover that your words were taken in a way you never could have imagined—and likely, more negatively? Here are 5 explanations as to why communication that, however carefully delivered, might be quite different from what your mate heard: The other person is angry with [...]
When you are in an unhappy relationship, you have three choices. Maintain status quo End the relationship Make it better That’s it—number three. Surprisingly (or maybe not so surprisingly) most unhappy people choose Option 1. It feels strange to think most of us would choose – or at least accept – unhappiness as our relationship [...]
You are not alone; this is a common problem that marriage counselors often hear. Wives report a variety of reasons why their husbands will not come to marriage counseling: He has already “checked-out” of the relationship emotionally. He does not “believe” in counseling; it’s a sham that won’t work. He doesn’t think he has a [...]
What is emotional baggage? In simple terms, it is unresolved emotional issues from the past. For some, emotional baggage goes back to childhood. For others, it may be of a more recent origin. The primary characteristic of most emotional baggage is that it involves some type of abuse and/or trauma. Because these painful experience(s) have [...]
It’s easy to blame the other person for your unhappiness. You may think, “They’re the problem; they need to change!” When you externalize your frustration by blaming or criticizing them for your discontent, you are attempting to change them. “If you would only _________, I wouldn’t be so mad.” Unfortunately, all you really accomplish is [...]
