How would you describe your current marriage relationship? Are things good or maybe a little shaky? Do you see any danger signs that trouble you? If you’re not sure, why not take the time to review some of the danger signs? Scripture tells us "a prudent man sees danger and takes refuge, but the simple [...]
What is Betrayal Trauma? Betrayal trauma is the result of the violation of a deep attachment, where there has been abuse or neglect of an individual who depends on that attachment for their safety and well-being. Betrayal Trauma occurs most commonly from partner betrayal- a partner has an affair or lies to you about something significant [...]
It’s easy to blame the other person for your unhappiness. You may think, “They’re the problem; they need to change!” When you externalize your frustration by blaming or criticizing them for your discontent, you are attempting to change them. “If you would only _________, I wouldn’t be so mad.” Unfortunately, all you really accomplish is [...]
A person with “trust issues” anticipates betrayal, rejection, and humiliation, which keeps them in a state of high alert. They are continuously scanning their environment for any signs that may indicate that they are vulnerable to being emotionally hurt. In most cases, trust issues develop because of a partner’s infidelity. They have either admitted to [...]
Breaking free from porn addiction requires commitment — to yourself and to the process. But in the heat of temptation, we need more than just resolve. We need spiritual tools and practices that will work to not only choose well in the moment, but to retrain our brains. We don’t want to simply repress feelings [...]
Many Christians are discouraged because they are unable to conquer impure habits. Impure habits are a by-product of impure thoughts, and only as the battle is won in the thought life will there be hope of victory over impure actions. Satan wants you to believe that you’re the only one who has this problem and that [...]
Expect emotional discomfort. Resentment and negative feelings may have accumulated over time because your problems have not been dealt with properly. It’s time to address the issues despite the discomfort. Avoid the blame game. Pointing fingers at your spouse always leads to defensiveness and a breakdown in communication. Take responsibility for the hurt you have [...]
The wife’s voice was calm as she shared her need, but the husband’s reaction was swift. “What do you mean, ‘spend more time together at home’? When I’m home all you seem to want to do is sit on the couch and watch your favorite shows. How can that be spending time together? I would [...]
Trust within a marriage is the most fundamental ingredient necessary for two people to live together with assurance and commitment. Just as trust is the foundation of your relationship with God, you must also have trust for the person that you are committed to in your earthly life. When trust has been violated in a [...]
When you are in an unhappy relationship, you have three choices. Maintain status quo End the relationship Make it better That’s it—number three. Surprisingly (or maybe not so surprisingly) most unhappy people choose Option 1. It feels strange to think most of us would choose – or at least accept – unhappiness as our relationship [...]
