It’s easy to blame the other person for your unhappiness. You may think, “They’re the problem; they need to change!” When you externalize your frustration by blaming or criticizing them for your discontent, you are attempting to change them. “If you would only _________, I wouldn’t be so mad.” Unfortunately, all you really accomplish is [...]
A person with “trust issues” anticipates betrayal, rejection, and humiliation, which keeps them in a state of high alert. They are continuously scanning their environment for any signs that may indicate that they are vulnerable to being emotionally hurt. In most cases, trust issues develop because of a partner’s infidelity. They have either admitted to [...]
Breaking free from porn addiction requires commitment — to yourself and to the process. But in the heat of temptation, we need more than just resolve. We need spiritual tools and practices that will work to not only choose well in the moment, but to retrain our brains. We don’t want to simply repress feelings [...]
Many Christians are discouraged because they are unable to conquer impure habits. Impure habits are a by-product of impure thoughts, and only as the battle is won in the thought life will there be hope of victory over impure actions. Satan wants you to believe that you’re the only one who has this problem and that [...]
Expect emotional discomfort. Resentment and negative feelings may have accumulated over time because your problems have not been dealt with properly. It’s time to address the issues despite the discomfort. Avoid the blame game. Pointing fingers at your spouse always leads to defensiveness and a breakdown in communication. Take responsibility for the hurt you have [...]
The wife’s voice was calm as she shared her need, but the husband’s reaction was swift. “What do you mean, ‘spend more time together at home’? When I’m home all you seem to want to do is sit on the couch and watch your favorite shows. How can that be spending time together? I would [...]
When you are in an unhappy relationship, you have three choices. Maintain status quo End the relationship Make it better That’s it—number three. Surprisingly (or maybe not so surprisingly) most unhappy people choose Option 1. It feels strange to think most of us would choose – or at least accept – unhappiness as our relationship [...]
The divorce rate has actually been on a steady decline since the 90s, and it’s projected that 63% of couples that marry in the 2000s will never divorce. Still nervous? While there is no magic formula that can guarantee your marital relationship will last a lifetime, there are a number of sound principles you can [...]
Key Thought: Oneness grows only through the consistent practice of marital love by both spouses. (Corollary: Isolation develops through the inconsistent practice of marital love by one or both spouses.) Introduction: The ability to speak the same language is critically important for people (i.e. person to person, groups, nations, etc.) understanding and working together cooperatively [...]
When we enter into a relationship, we bring not only our love and warmth but also the attitudes, behaviors and habits from all previous relationships. Each of these relationships molded and formed us into the people we are today. Perhaps our most significant relationship was the one we had with our parent(s). The way in [...]
