Co-parenting with your ex-spouse is a journey that requires cooperation, communication, and commitment to the well-being of your children. This inventory is designed to help you reflect on the strengths and challenges in your co-parenting relationship. Answer each statement honestly based on your current experience. Your responses will help identify areas where you collaborate effectively and areas that may need improvement for the benefit of your children and your relationship as co-parents.
For each statement, please rate how often it is true in your co-parenting relationship using the following scale:
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5 = Always
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4 = Often
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3 = Sometimes
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2 = Rarely
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1 = Never
Inventory Items
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We communicate openly and respectfully about our children’s needs.
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We make major decisions about our children together.
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We support each other’s parenting styles, even if they differ.
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We consistently keep each other informed about our children’s schedules and activities.
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We avoid speaking negatively about each other in front of our children.
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We are able to resolve disagreements about parenting without hostility.
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We encourage our children to have a positive relationship with the other parent.
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We share responsibilities for our children’s daily care and routines fairly.
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We respect each other’s boundaries and roles as parents.
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We pray or seek spiritual guidance together for the well-being of our children.
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We listen carefully to each other’s concerns about the children.
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We work together to provide consistent rules and discipline for our children.
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We celebrate our children’s achievements together.
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We are flexible and willing to adjust plans for the children’s best interests.
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We avoid using our children as messengers or intermediaries between us.
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We support each other’s efforts to maintain a healthy lifestyle for our children.
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We are patient and understanding with each other’s parenting challenges.
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We respect each other’s time with the children and avoid unnecessary conflicts.
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We seek help or counseling together when co-parenting difficulties arise.
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We share information about our children’s health and education promptly.
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We encourage our children to express their feelings about both parents.
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We avoid involving extended family members in conflicts between us.
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We maintain a united front when discussing important issues with our children.
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We forgive each other quickly when mistakes or misunderstandings occur.
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We pray for wisdom and grace in our co-parenting relationship.
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We respect each other’s privacy while co-parenting.
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We work together to create a stable and loving environment for our children.
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We avoid using the children to manipulate or control the other parent.
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We acknowledge and appreciate each other’s efforts in parenting.
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We strive to model Christ-like love, patience, and humility in our co-parenting relationship.
Scoring Key
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120–150 (Strong Collaboration): Your co-parenting relationship is characterized by healthy communication, mutual respect, and effective teamwork. You are successfully prioritizing your children’s well-being and modeling biblical principles of unity and love.
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90–119 (Moderate Collaboration): You have a good foundation but there are areas that need attention. Consider focusing on improving communication, conflict resolution, or shared responsibilities to strengthen your co-parenting partnership.
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60–89 (Limited Collaboration): Your co-parenting relationship faces significant challenges that may be impacting your children. It would be beneficial to seek guidance, possibly through counseling or pastoral support, to address conflicts and build a more cooperative approach.
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Below 60 (Poor Collaboration): Your co-parenting relationship is struggling and may be causing harm to your children’s emotional well-being. Immediate steps should be taken to improve communication, reduce conflict, and seek professional help to restore a healthy environment for your children.