Introduction: Most parents yell at their kids and are fairly astute at giving excuses for their behavior. We all know, however, that we shouldn’t yell and that it has a long-term, negative impact on our kids. This lesson is focused on stopping the behavior. Why? BECAUSE IT IS WRONG AND DOESN”T WORK!
Why Yelling Doesn’t Work:
What you model is what your children will imitate. If you yell, you’re training them to yell. The principal reason that your kids are yelling is because you have over-reacted to them. It’s time to stop yelling and change the tone of your house.
When you yell at your child, you hand over all control to them. They learn how to push your buttons and get you to react. It’s time to remember that you are the adult and need to start acting like it. That means not reacting to your kid’s tantrum with an adult tantrum.
Think about the excuses you use for yelling at your kids. “They make me angry,” “I don’t deserve to be treated that way,” “I didn’t raise them like this,” “What will people think of me if they see this?” All of these reasons are about you; you yell for selfish reasons.
If your stove is on fire, what is your initial reaction? Would you grab a can of gasoline and drench the flame? If your child is misbehaving and you yell, you are accelerating an already heated situation.
As parents we should take advantage of teachable moments; to use them for our kid’s moral and spiritual growth. When we yell, we forfeit the chance to have meaningful conversations with our kids.
As Christian parents our goal is to reach our child’s heart. Yelling is never about the heart; it’s always about the child’s misbehavior. Even if your yelling does produce the behavior you desire, he will never become more than a sophisticated Pharisee; a person more concerned with external appearances than inward heart issues.
How to Stop Yelling:
You only have two options when your child does something that makes you want to scream:
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