Spiritual Maturity Test for Couples

Spiritual maturity is a lifelong journey that transforms individuals and strengthens marriages. As a couple, your shared walk with Christ impacts every area of your relationship—how you communicate, resolve conflict, serve others, and grow together. This test is designed to help you and your spouse reflect on your spiritual growth, identify strengths, and discover areas where you can pursue deeper maturity together. Please answer each statement honestly, considering both your personal and shared experiences.

Instructions:
For each statement, choose the response that best describes you or your relationship as a couple:

1. Always true

2. Often true

3. Sometimes true

4. Rarely true

5. Never true

Record your answers as you go. After completing the test, use the scoring key to interpret your results.

The Test

1. We regularly pray together as a couple.

2. We seek God’s guidance before making important decisions.

3. We forgive each other quickly and sincerely when conflicts arise.

4. We encourage each other in our personal walk with Christ.

5. We attend church together consistently.

6. We read the Bible together or share what we are learning from Scripture.

7. We discuss spiritual matters openly and honestly.

8. We serve together in our church or community.

9. We support each other’s spiritual gifts and callings.

10. We confess our sins to one another and pray for each other’s growth.

11. We set aside time for personal devotions and respect each other’s need for time with God.

12. We handle disagreements with patience and gentleness.

13. We seek reconciliation quickly when there is tension between us.

14. We are accountable to one another in areas of temptation or weakness.

15. We give generously and agree on financial stewardship as a couple.

16. We encourage one another to trust God in difficult times.

17. We express gratitude to God together for His blessings.

18. We are honest about our struggles and ask each other for prayer.

19. We intentionally build relationships with other Christian couples.

20. We avoid gossip, slander, or negative talk about others.

21. We make time for worship together outside of church services.

22. We show Christ-like love to each other, even when it’s difficult.

23. We discuss how biblical principles apply to our daily life and marriage.

24. We are quick to admit when we are wrong and ask for forgiveness.

25. We prioritize our relationship with God above all else.

26. We encourage each other to grow in faith and knowledge of God’s Word.

27. We talk about our spiritual goals and dreams as a couple.

28. We model a Christ-centered marriage for our children or others around us.

29. We are open to godly counsel from trusted mentors or pastors.

30. We regularly reflect on how God is working in our marriage.

31. We guard our hearts and minds against worldly influences that could harm our relationship.

32. We show hospitality and welcome others into our home as an act of Christian service.

33. We support each other in times of doubt or spiritual dryness.

34. We practice humility, putting each other’s needs before our own.

35. We encourage each other to participate in spiritual disciplines such as fasting, solitude, or journaling.

36. We resolve to speak truth in love, even when it’s uncomfortable.

37. We pray for and bless those who have hurt us or our marriage.

38. We seek opportunities to share our faith as a couple with others.

39. We intentionally set spiritual goals for our marriage each year.

40. We celebrate spiritual milestones and answered prayers together.

Scoring Key

For each item, assign the following points:

• Always true = 5 points

• Often true = 4 points

• Sometimes true = 3 points

• Rarely true = 2 points

• Never true = 1 point

Add up your total score (maximum possible: 200 points).

Interpreting Your Score:

• 175–200: Excellent spiritual maturity. You and your spouse are consistently growing together in Christ and modeling a godly marriage. Continue to nurture your spiritual habits and encourage one another.

• 150–174: Strong spiritual foundation. You are doing well, but there may be a few areas to strengthen. Discuss the statements where you scored lower and set goals for growth.

• 120–149: Moderate spiritual maturity. You have a good foundation, but there are several areas that need attention. Use this as an opportunity to talk openly about your spiritual life and make a plan to grow together.

• 90–119: Needs improvement. There are significant areas to address in your spiritual journey as a couple. Consider seeking guidance from a pastor or Christian counselor and commit to regular spiritual practices together.

• Below 90: At risk. Your spiritual connection as a couple is weak and may be affecting your relationship. Seek support from your church community, begin praying and reading Scripture together, and consider counseling to help you reconnect spiritually.

This assessment is a tool for reflection and conversation, not a measure of your worth or God’s love for you. Use it as a starting point to pray together, encourage one another, and pursue deeper spiritual intimacy as a couple. Remember, spiritual maturity is a lifelong journey, and God is faithful to complete the good work He has begun in you (Philippians 1:6).