This inventory is designed to help you assess the levels of stress and resilience present in your marriage. Whether you have children or not, understanding these factors can guide you toward strengthening your relationship through biblical principles such as patience, forgiveness, prayer, and mutual support. Honest reflection on these questions can reveal areas where God’s grace is working and where additional growth may be needed.

Instructions:

Please read each statement carefully and rate how often it has applied to your relationship over the past month. Use the following scale:

  • 1 = Never

  • 2 = Rarely

  • 3 = Sometimes

  • 4 = Often

  • 5 = Always

Answer as honestly as possible to gain the most accurate insight into your marriage’s current state.

Stress Factors

  1. We experience frequent disagreements about parenting or household responsibilities.

  2. Financial concerns often cause tension between us.

  3. We feel overwhelmed by the demands of caring for our children or managing household duties.

  4. We struggle to find time for intimacy due to busy schedules.

  5. External pressures such as work or extended family increase stress in our relationship.

  6. We feel emotionally distant during stressful times.

  7. Our communication breaks down when under pressure.

  8. We worry about the future of our children or our marriage.

  9. Conflict tends to escalate quickly during disagreements.

  10. We feel anxious about meeting each other’s needs consistently.

  11. External crises like health issues or job loss strain our relationship.

  12. We experience feelings of disappointment or frustration with each other.

  13. Our sleep is affected by stress related to family or work.

  14. We find it difficult to manage our anger during conflicts.

  15. We feel isolated or unsupported in dealing with life’s challenges.

Resilience Factors

  1. We pray together and seek God’s guidance during difficult times.

  2. We forgive each other quickly and seek reconciliation.

  3. We support each other’s spiritual growth and faith.

  4. We communicate openly about our feelings and concerns.

  5. We actively work to resolve conflicts biblically and lovingly.

  6. We encourage each other to pursue personal growth.

  7. We find joy and gratitude in our daily life together.

  8. We trust God’s plan for our marriage and family.

  9. We serve others together, strengthening our bond.

  10. We maintain hope and optimism despite difficulties.

  11. We lean on God’s strength rather than our own during crises.

  12. We pray regularly for each other’s well-being.

  13. We forgive past hurts and do not hold grudges.

  14. We seek counsel and support from faith-based resources when needed.

  15. We demonstrate patience and perseverance in our marriage.

Scoring and Interpretation

To evaluate your results, add up the scores for all 30 items. The total score provides insight into your relationship’s current stress and resilience levels:

  • A total score between 30 and 90 suggests low stress and high resilience. Your relationship demonstrates strong coping skills and spiritual strength. Continue nurturing these qualities through prayer, Scripture, and mutual support.

  • A score between 91 and 150 indicates moderate stress and resilience. There are areas where you can grow, especially in managing stress and strengthening resilience. Biblical principles such as patience, forgiveness, and prayer can help improve your situation.

  • Scores from 151 to 180 reflect high stress and moderate resilience. Your relationship faces significant challenges. Consider seeking biblical counseling, prayer, and support from your faith community to build resilience and reduce stress.

  • A score above 180 suggests very high stress and low resilience. Immediate attention is needed. Rely on God’s grace, prayer, and possibly faith-based counseling to restore peace and strength in your marriage.

Note: This inventory is a self-assessment tool meant to foster reflection. For personalized guidance, consult with a trusted faith-based counselor or pastor who can help you apply biblical principles to your specific circumstances.

This assessment emphasizes reliance on God’s strength, forgiveness, patience, and prayer—core biblical values that can help couples navigate stress and build resilience in their marriage.