Boundaries are one of the most powerful tools you have in relationships. They make you feel like you matter and that you’re safe. Asking for what you want makes relationships mutually satisfying.
When boundaries are a struggle, you feel unsure of yourself. You go along with what others want because it’s easier. You don’t want to risk a potential conflict.
So you keep quiet. But something needs to change. You are getting tired of not putting your needs out there! That means setting boundaries. Here are the steps to take, one at a time in this order. Each skill is necessary to move on to the next. They build off each other. So let’s get started.
What are boundaries?
Boundaries are limits you set for yourself about what you are willing to participate in. They are not about getting someone else to change. Here are steps to walk you through how to set a boundary.
Example:
Example: I really need help with picking the kids up this week. Are there days that you could do it?
The Benefits of Boundaries
Learning to set boundaries is one of the best things you can do for this New Year. Setting boundaries can clarify the health of a relationship.
If they aren’t respected, you may want to reconsider the relationship. If someone reacts negatively whenever you make a request, that’s important information. Boundaries highlight whether a relationship is reciprocal.
You deserve to have your needs met and boundaries are the way to get you there fast!
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