The Healthy Relationship Checklist

This checklist is designed to help you take an honest look at your relationship and see how it lines up with biblical principles for healthy, loving partnerships. Answer each item with “Yes,” “Sometimes,” or “No.” There’s no perfect relationship, so don’t worry if you can’t check every box—just use this as a tool to grow together!

1. We pray together regularly.

2. We talk openly about our faith and encourage each other spiritually.

3. We forgive each other quickly and don’t hold grudges.

4. We say “I love you” often and mean it.

5. We laugh together and enjoy each other’s company.

6. We listen to each other without interrupting.

7. We apologize when we’re wrong.

8. We make decisions together as a team.

9. We respect each other’s opinions, even when we disagree.

10. We support each other’s dreams and goals.

11. We spend quality time together, not just in the same room but truly connecting.

12. We talk about our problems instead of ignoring them.

13. We encourage each other to grow in Christ.

14. We avoid comparing our relationship to others.

15. We handle money matters openly and honestly.

16. We set healthy boundaries with friends, family, and technology.

17. We protect our marriage from outside influences.

18. We are faithful to each other in thought, word, and deed.

19. We give each other the benefit of the doubt.

20. We show affection through words, touch, and acts of service.

21. We pray for each other daily.

22. We are quick to offer grace when mistakes are made.

23. We have fun together and make time for date nights.

24. We encourage each other’s gifts and talents.

25. We talk about our hopes and fears without fear of judgment.

26. We are honest about our struggles and weaknesses.

27. We speak kindly to and about each other, even in private.

28. We keep Christ at the center of our relationship.

29. We serve together in our church or community.

30. We seek wise counsel when we hit a rough patch.

31. We celebrate each other’s successes, big or small.

32. We don’t use past mistakes as weapons in arguments.

33. We are patient with each other’s growth and change.

34. We protect each other’s reputation.

35. We are content with what God has given us.

36. We express gratitude for each other often.

37. We don’t let anger simmer—if we’re upset, we talk it out.

38. We are generous with our time, attention, and resources.

39. We trust each other and work to build that trust daily.

40. We remind each other of God’s promises, especially during tough times.

Use this checklist to start conversations, pray together, and set goals for your relationship. Remember, a healthy relationship isn’t about perfection—it’s about pursuing Christ together and loving each other with grace, patience, and joy.