The Marital Health Assessment

Introduction

The “Marital Health Assessment” is designed to help couples evaluate key aspects of their relationship. By identifying areas of strength and weakness, couples can gain insights into their dynamics and work toward improving their connection. The test covers critical domains such as communication, intimacy, conflict resolution, trust, finances, and shared goals. Each question invites honest reflection on the current state of the relationship. The scoring key will provide a clear interpretation of results, helping couples understand where they excel and where growth is needed.

Instructions:

Answer each question using the following scale:

• 1: Strongly Disagree

• 2: Disagree

• 3: Neutral

• 4: Agree

• 5: Strongly Agree

Communication

1. We feel comfortable discussing difficult topics.

2. We listen to each other without interrupting.

3. We express our needs clearly and effectively.

4. We resolve disagreements respectfully.

5. We avoid being defensive during arguments.

Intimacy

6. We feel emotionally close to each other.

7. Our physical intimacy is fulfilling for both of us.

8. We openly share our feelings with each other.

9. We prioritize spending quality time together.

10. We express affection daily through words or actions.

Conflict Resolution

11. We handle conflicts constructively without escalating them.

12. We are good at forgiving each other when hurt.

13. We compromise when we have differing opinions.

14. We avoid blaming or criticizing during disagreements.

15. We resolve issues in a way that strengthens our relationship.

Trust

16. I trust my partner completely in all areas of our relationship.

17. My partner is dependable and keeps promises.

18. We are honest with each other about finances, feelings, and concerns.

19. I feel safe being vulnerable with my partner.

20. My partner respects my boundaries.

Shared Goals

21. We have similar life goals and aspirations.

22. We support each other’s dreams and ambitions.

23. We regularly discuss our plans for the future together.

24. Our values align in important areas like faith, family, and finances.

25. We work together to achieve shared goals.

Financial Management

26. We agree on how to manage our finances.

27. We communicate openly about financial concerns or decisions.

28. Both partners contribute fairly to financial responsibilities.

29. Money disagreements are resolved calmly and respectfully.

30. Financial stress does not negatively impact our relationship.

Friendship

31. My partner is my closest friend.

32. We enjoy spending time together doing activities we both love.

33. We laugh often and share humor in our daily lives.

34. I feel supported by my partner during challenging times.

35. Our friendship strengthens our romantic connection.

Commitment

36. Our relationship is a top priority for both of us.

37. I feel secure in my partner’s commitment to me and our marriage.

38. We actively work on improving our relationship when needed.

39. Both partners are willing to make sacrifices for the well-being of the marriage.

40. Our relationship feels like a partnership built on mutual respect.

Scoring Key

Add up your scores for all 40 questions (maximum score: 200). Use the following ranges to interpret your results:

• 160–200 (Strong Marriage): Your marriage demonstrates significant strengths across key areas such as communication, trust, and intimacy, with minimal weaknesses to address.

• 120–159 (Moderate Marriage): Your marriage has many strengths but also some areas that could benefit from improvement or intentional effort.

• 80–119 (Weak Marriage): Your marriage may be struggling in multiple areas, requiring focused attention to strengthen your connection.

• Below 80 (Critical Marriage): Your marriage faces serious challenges that may require counseling or intervention to rebuild trust, intimacy, and communication.

Reflection & Next Steps

After completing the test:

1. Identify your strongest areas—these are the foundations of your marriage that you can continue building upon.

2. Pinpoint weaker areas—discuss these with your spouse and consider practical steps for improvement (e.g., setting aside time for communication or seeking professional counseling).

3. Pray together for wisdom and guidance in strengthening your marriage, trusting God as the ultimate source of unity and love in your relationship.

This test is a tool for growth—not judgment—and serves as a starting point for deeper conversations about how to glorify God through your marriage while fostering love and respect for one another!